Another very interesting article emailed to us, and had to share with our members here.

I've received lots of questions over at Ausfantasy.com.au asking me how to have anal sex without hurting your lover.

I've found that, like I was, many people are nervous and confused about anal sex. So, I decided to write a brief recollection of my experience. Although I'm still having anal sex, I don't do it very often. It's something I enjoy periodically, but it's not something I HAVE to do.

So every time I desire anal sex, I usually go through the same steps. So let's get on with it.

Here were the steps I took before engaging in my first anal sex, anal intercourse experience.

Cleansing.
Before I get involved in any type of anal play or sex really, I make sure I'm clean as a whistle. When I'm clean, I feel more confident, sexier and more ready to get myself dirty. Cleansing usually consists of emptying the bowels, or at least trying. Quite often during any kind of initial anal penetration, I feel like I have to move ones bowels. I believe it's just that, a feeling. So as long as one take of business ahead of time, I know that's just a feeling and not a call to answer from nature.

After that, there's taking a shower or bath no big deal. I make sure one soaps one self up down there and usually even stick one soaped up finger in ones anus real quick and you will know your clean. Just make sure that you rinse yourself good. Leaving soap behind can be irritating to some. That's the simplest way to clean up and get ready.

Some folks would rather give themselves an enema, which is much more involved. In fact an entire article can be written on that alone. The most important thing about enemas is to make sure you do it hours beforehand so that you're totally emptied out by the time you play. Also, follow all instructions to a tee!

Anal Play.
First, your other half will engaged in a little anal play consisting of applying latex gloves, lubing up ones finger real good and rubbing his finger around the anus and holding a vibrator, the Pocket Rocket, against ones anus. The first few times there was NO penetration whatsoever and one can say that all those extremely sensitive nerve endings are in and around the anus, so even if you don't experience penetration right away, which you absolutely shouldn't your first few times around, it's an extremely pleasurable experience. One found, and still do, that just holding a vibrator against ones anus makes ones orgasm more intense. Yummy!!!! So no penetration the first time around. We really took our time and enjoyed the process. This lasted a few weeks.

Finger Penetration.
When one was comfortable with anal play, then one moved on to inserting just one finger into ones anus. So ones other half donned those latex gloves again, lubed up those fingers" once anything, a finger, a toy, a penis is inserted into the anus, all motion should be paused, letting the receiver adjust to this new sensation and then when ready, the giver can kind of start wiggling finger around a little and tapping on the walls of the rectum. This is exactly what we did and it was so exciting that it brought one to orgasm almost immediately. So much for working our way up, one was finished before I even started. Wow!!!

More Fingers.
After a number of sex sessions, which was also at least a couple of weeks and it would also depend on how often you have sex and what kind of time you have for each session, One was then able to accept more fingers. We did the same thing, applied that latex glove, lubed up each finger and then slowly penetrated Ones ass, then wiggled and tapped the fingers. We applied more lube to my anus before each finger was inserted. You can NEVER have too much lube. Once one was comfortable with that we moved on to the next phase. Now remember, these are totally different sessions of sexual play. One really didn't move past a step in the same session, except here. Once one could take a couple of fingers, one did try an anal sex toy.

Toys.
One tried anal beads first because they were separate little balls, but for some reason one didn't find them to be as exciting as I had hoped, so one moved on to a butt plug, like the small Pop Plug. That's what one needed! One liked the feeling of fullness in ones ass from the butt plug. The Pop Plug also works really well because it's made of silicone and can be fully cleaned and disinfected after use.

The anal beads didn't work out for us because at the time, one was ready for something to be put in ones ass and to stay put. The beads were popping in and out and all that activity just didn't feel good at the time, it was actually annoying.

Anyway, using lots of lube, one slowly, very slowly stuck the plug in ones ass. Then ones other half, with clean hands, rubbed ones clit and then we started having intercourse. Wow, did that feel exquisite while having vaginal intercourse! After a few more sessions, one felt one was ready for the cock.

Anal Intercourse.
In order to prepare ones ass for this, on the same night, one went through all these steps listed above before one allowed ones partner to thrust one with the penis. We used lots of lube, one wore a condom and we took our time. By going through all these steps beforehand, there was absolutely no pain or unpleasantness, only tons of exquisite pleasure. One thinks that was the most intense, full body orgasm one could ever have, ever!

The position that each chose to have anal intercourse for the first time was 'Woman on Top.' That may sound odd to some. Many are thinking ouch too deep, too deep! Although true, it wasn't painful or unpleasant. Our other half sat on the bed with ones back up against the headboard, they applied the condom, One drenched the penis with lube and the other half straddled the penis. Very carefully held on to the penis, and, slowly, very slowly sat down on the penis. In order to help one slide down slowly, ones other half assisted by putting ones hands under her ass checks so that if her legs got tired, she wouldn't come crashing down on you.

Once she got the head of his cock in, which is in all honesty the thickest part and this holds true for dildos as well, we paused. At that point she was able to slowly position herself so she could come down on her knees while straddling him and then when ready, she could easily slide down onto more of him. The most important thing here is that he, as difficult as it was, never pumped, never lifted his body.

He as in you, just sat still and allowed her to come down on him. Let her ride you, that way she has FULL control over the depth and the speed of penetration. He was so excited about the experience that he climaxed rather easily. Once she was on her knees and felt comfortable, she let him ride a bit, while she did that she lubed up her hand, the one that wasn't touching his cock or was maneuvering around her anus, and rubbed her clit. The whole experience, which was probably one the most intense that we have experienced, didn't last too long because her virgin behind got WAY too excited and I reached an extremely satisfying climax. After that, it was time to slowly and gently lift herself off his cock because after orgasm, anal penetration just didn't feel that great any more.

Some Final Thoughts.
Before we wrap things up here, cn we just want to ask you to please take note that we only fooled around with anal intercourse when we had TIME. If we were only having a quickie, anal penetration was not explored. Anal play was, but penetration took time and that's not something we were going to rush into. Our other half, wanting to have a wonderful first experience, let me lead the way the entire time so that we would remain comfortable and excited about the journey. We enjoyed it also, seeing us experience all these new forms of pleasure and really getting off on it.

This was all a hot show and experience for both of us as well.

Remember, anal intercourse is not supposed to hurt, if it does stop all activity and take things back a step until you're comfortable. If you have to stop all anal play and resume at a later date. It doesn't have to be done in one session, in one night it shouldn't be.

It's not about reaching the final destination but the fun and the exploration that it takes to get there. Get educated before you get busy, and ones experiences have been very positive because of that.